Monthly Archives: November 2011

What friends are for

In a world where people can get obsessed with how many friends or followers they have online, it’s easy to forget what real friends are for. The internet is a great place to create loose ties, far reaching networks, and somewhat passive audiences that watch what you do or what your organizations does with mild interest. But these passive audiences may be just as happy to spread bad news as they are to celebrate good news. Real friends are the one who know who you are, what you stand for. They are the ones who, if you need them to, will come to your defense. Even in a virtual world of social networks and information overload, real friends still matter.

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

A Dream Job

Your dream job may not be the same as my dream job, but a dream job for anyone has these qualities – it is dynamic, it is fulfilling and it matters. We’ve just posted a job for someone who would work with me on communications, and I truly believe it is a dream job for the right person.

I lead Acumen Fund’s communication efforts, and have the privilege of supporting Acumen Fund’s core mission of changing the way the world tackles poverty through our work to communicate stories of what works, to spread ideas and new approaches, and to expand our impact through our community around the world.

Change can come about in many ways. Today, I watch young people getting arrested on TV for Occupy efforts across the country and know that they are part of a change we need to see in how our country allocates opportunity. Last week, I stood with my colleagues and talked to our global community of supporters about a change in how the world tackles the gaping holes in access to critical goods and services faced by the world’s poor through the catalytic role of entrepreneurship.

In all the great changes of the past many decades, the storytellers have played a role. We’re looking for someone who understands the power of storytelling, of media, of language. This is the job for someone who has been drawn to the fields of journalism and communications because of an unflappable faith that, despite the constraints of contemporary media, there is a way to use words, images and stories to communicate truth, to inspire, and to drive change.

And this is the dream job for someone who wants to use their skills and networks in media and communications to help articulate and amplify a bold new approach to tackling global poverty.  If this is you, or someone you know, check out the job posting!

Leave a comment

Filed under Careers, Social Impact

The Working Mother Mythology

I started tracking “working mother” on Twitter a few weeks ago, thinking it would lead me to content and tweets that I could relate to and potentially share with friends. But what I saw pop up after a just a few days of tracking this topic was that I was seriously deluded when I assumed that I would instantly connect with the plight of the average working mother. I thought that working mother problems were my problems. But they’re not. My problems are not problems at all. They’re just the symptoms of being one of a lucky few women who have the luxury of being able to enjoy work full of meaning, career success, and an emotionally satisfying relationship with my family. And to choose how I combine these things.

It’s not completely my fault – I have certainly had my own misguided assumptions instilled and reinforced by others, magazines like Working Mother or Pink, columns and articles I’ve read in the NY Times and New York Magazine, like “The Opt-Out Revolution” that Lisa Belkin wrote for the NY Times in 2003. There are enough books, articles, blogs and even the recent film “I Don’t Know How She Does It” that made me think that I could consider my issues as part of a larger societal question.  So many women seem to struggle with finding the right balance, seem to wrestle with guilt about the choices they make. In this context, it is easy to get caught up in a sense that the “problems” I face with are the problems of working mothers writ large.

I’m talking about problems like having to wonder if I’m really fulfilling my potential by allowing my professional life to slow down the teensiest bit because I have two kids under 4, or wondering if the stay-at-home moms at my sons preschool think I’m a slacker because I didn’t contribute to the bake sale, or just that feeling that I could do better at being a mom OR a professional if I just did one at a time. But it does not take much effort on my part to look at each of those “problems” and perform some mental adjustment that helps me realize that being a mother IS fulfilling my potential, that the stay-at-home moms could care less about what I bring or don’t bring to the bake sale, and most of all, that I am probably a better mom because I don’t try to do it all the time. I’m still not convinced that being a mom makes me a better professional (specially not the way I do it), but I could convince myself of that in time.

The messages I saw on twitter that opened my eyes were about moms who work to put food on the table, who can’t afford to stay home even if they want to, who don’t get to decide how many days a week they will ideally work, or exactly when they’d like to pursue a promotion. The complaints I noticed were about a degree of chaos and exhaustion that comes from doing it all, with minimal support, and no real reward. The women who I read about didn’t enjoy being at work, but didn’t have the flexibility to be home more and didn’t sound like they saw their kids much at all. They were doing what they had to for their family, with little personal reward. They were not what Lisa Belkin referred to as “educated professional women” who could pivot with minimal effort on how much time to work, what kind of job to do, what kind of outside assistance to engage. I realized that for many moms, work is not about identity, it’s about survival, and suddenly my issues were put into perspective.

As a friend (and fellow professional and mom) recently said to me, “these are the problems you want to have.” So, my quest to better understand the typical working mom made me realize that I have been confused about my situation. What I have are choices, and the tremendous sense of responsibility (or even self-doubt) that comes with those choices. I want to do the right thing because I can choose what to do with this embarrassment of riches. The real struggles for a woman who is giving her all to work and raise children without the benefit of graduate education, helpful networks, safety nets – these are things I can’t even talk about. My ignorance of them is too great, and tracking Twitter for days or weeks is not going to change that. There are real and documented challenges that impact professional women who have children, and I may get into that later, but for now, I will try to reflect a bit on the good fortune of having the “problems” I do.

Leave a comment

Filed under Work and Life